Reparenting Our Inner Child

Reparenting Our Inner Child

All of us have over the years made efforts to become adults, it can be at once grating and dispiriting to be told that there might, nevertheless, be an ‘inner child’ still lodged somewhere within us, holding us back. Sign…

The 7 Things You Can Do to Make a Relationship Work

The 7 Things You Can Do to Make a Relationship Work

We can spend a lot of time in committed relationships wondering, maybe with a fair amount of anxiety: do they love me? Might it all suddenly end? But perhaps less time asking the more salient question: what can I do…

Why Successful Love Requires Vulnerability

Why Successful Love Requires Vulnerability

We can state the matter starkly: we cannot be good lovers if we don’t know how to be vulnerable. Sign up to our mailing list to receive 10% off your first order with us: For books and more from The…

3 Ways to Deal with Envious Friends...

3 Ways to Deal with Envious Friends…

Almost inevitably, somewhere along the path of our friendships, we are fated to stumble upon one of the most paradoxical yet universal of characters: the envious friend. The situation is as wounding as it is uncharted. How are we to…

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Van Gogh As a Guide to Confidence

Van Gogh As a Guide to Confidence

In 1888, a penniless Dutchman, who would in a few months be committed to an asylum and be dead within two years, sat down in the eastern corner of the Place du Forum in Arles and set to work on…

Why You Need to Have a Proper Adolescence

Why You Need to Have a Proper Adolescence

It’s an enormous privilege to have an adolescence – and, to an extent rarely spoken about, not everyone gets the chance to have one. Adolescence isn’t just a particular time of one’s second decade, and it won’t unfold automatically simply…

How to Get Less Defensive in Relationships

How to Get Less Defensive in Relationships

If we had to make one generalisation about why relationships fail, it would be this: because of defensiveness. Defensiveness is behind a predominant share of the failure of all relationships. The difficulty is that there appears to be no way…

Every Society Collapses, Here’s How to Survive...

Every Society Collapses, Here’s How to Survive…

The news is often determined to tell us that we live in uniquely critical times, beset by political disasters and afflicted by terrible crises and that the demise of human civilisation is surely imminent. We are encouraged to view the…

Why Parents Bully Their Children

Why Parents Bully Their Children

One of the strangest and saddest phenomena of psychological life is that there are parents, too many parents, who end up – while sometimes only half realising it – bullying their own children. The bullying may take many forms. Why…

The Importance of Being Single

The Importance of Being Single

One of the most important preconditions of a good relationship is a satisfactory perspective on being single. The more we are happy to be on our own, the more we will be able to exercise the correct degree of caution…