Why Relationships Require Self-Love
No animal, perhaps, can hate itself except – of course – a human being: it’s one of the strangest, and most regrettable, flaws in our condition. This tendency to self-hatred is not only destructive of our spirit, it constantly undermines…
The 7 Things You Can Do to Make a Relationship Work
We can spend a lot of time in committed relationships wondering, maybe with a fair amount of anxiety: do they love me? Might it all suddenly end? But perhaps less time asking the more salient question: what can I do…
Why Successful Love Requires Vulnerability
We can state the matter starkly: we cannot be good lovers if we don’t know how to be vulnerable. Sign up to our mailing list to receive 10% off your first order with us: For books and more from The…
How to Get Less Defensive in Relationships
If we had to make one generalisation about why relationships fail, it would be this: because of defensiveness. Defensiveness is behind a predominant share of the failure of all relationships. The difficulty is that there appears to be no way…
Lasting Love Without Being a Mindreader
In relationships, whatever our professed scepticism, we frequently proceed as if mind reading were not only possible but a standard requirement and possibility in love, something of whose absence we would have every right to complain with bitterness and surprise.…